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Thanks, folks - yeah this sucks

Strength to you, Myg. Do you need anything?

Sorry to hear that, Myg. Losing family and friends sucks.

I'm alright. Last week was bad. But this week I'm definitely more functional

Grief is weird. Thanks for the support, folks

Stay strong, Myg.

Absolutely grief is weird. It can strike anytime. Hang in there.

Guys I need some advice.

The pandemic's clearly screwed up most of our jobs, and I'm on unemployment until at least the middle of August. Both my jobs at Yankee Stadium and the census were put on hold and I've just been anxious about the future to the point I started filling out job applications online.

I actually heard back from a nursing home near me and I was scheduled to do orientation, but then I... called them back and told them why I couldn't do it after all. Everyone keeps reminding me I'm making more money now on unemployment then I would in a regular job, and they keep suggesting I worry about another job when my weeks are almost up. Plus, I realize a job in a nursing home is not safe right now because I could potentially be exposed to the virus and since I live with my mom and brother I can't put them in that position. I wouldn't even be able to go back to the store because I could infect my boss who has breathing problems.

I just... I don't know if I did the right thing or not.

Sarky, I think you did the right thing - your main consideration was safety / not spreading the virus, after all. The unemployment money is secondary.

^^What Ibby said.

And I would've done the same thing in your place, Sarky.

Agreed- I think you did the right thing.

It's a weird situation for everyone - and you live in the epicenter, my friend.

Your anxiety about the unknown is understandable.

As long as you have the means to support yourself with unemployment, then savor it. It's great to have options.

I'd also agree with what the others have said. Minimising the risk to your family is the most important thing at present. Working in a higher risk environment such as a nursing home, when you don't have to, wouldn't achieve that aim. I'd stick to the guidelines where you are. Be prepared to apply/interview in advance of them easing so that you're working when it's safer to do so, and so you don't lose out on financial support.

If your store boss has breathing difficulties, it may be he doesn't open as quickly as others. So it might be prudent to look elsewhere in advance of that happening.

Keep safe Sarky

In most of life and in the current situation in particular it is often not a case of a right decision and a wrong decision but rather choices, each with good and not so good consequences. In this case you put the continued health and well-being of your family over the future value of having worked during a period when many can't. That sounds like a good decision to me.

Personally I would have made the same choice.

The unemployment money is there not only because many people can't work but also because so many people have to make the exact same choice and decide not to work for health reasons. I applaud your continued search for employment and as this all moves on potential future employers are likely to look favourably on your attempts but choosing the health of your family over that sounds quite wise. My son, who lives with me, is working but it is as a gardener so outdoors, rarely meeting people and only working with his boss whose daughter is a nurse and is making sure he takes all the precautions he should. My sister on the other hand is a teacher but is not working because she provides a lot of care to our elderly mother and so made the same decision as yourself.

Be at peace. You may not have made a right or wrong decision but you made a good decision.

Thanks, you guys.

The other reason why this bothered me so much is, well...

My grandpa had a stroke last month alongside COVID and he recovered from both amazingly, but it opened up a lot of questions about the future I had to discuss with my mom and brother. I've been praying almost every night we make it through at least one more day with him, and that he overall makes it through the pandemic and we have a few more years with him before he passes on.

I've been saying during that time I'd do my best to work harder to bring more money to the household to either make Grandpa and the rest of us more comfortable, or to go towards wherever we'll end up after he's gone. I got anxious because I felt like turning down the job offer sort of goes against what I've been saying I'd do in my prayers and I was afraid I'd jinx things. I guess, I was scared Grandpa would take a turn for the worse like it was some sort of punishment for me being insincere.

But I guess the best thing I can do is worry about making sure I get through this pandemic first and then worry about earning more money, huh? I'm no good to anyone if I get sick.

Working at a nursing home seems like a terrible job under normal circumstances, and is definitely something I'd only consider as a last resort under present circumstances. So I have to agree that you made the right call. Keep yourself and your family safe.

To me prayer is more a conversation than an oath or something. In the Christian Bible even God changes his mind sometimes and does something different to what he initially said he would. Circumstances change and decisions change with it. It is not insincere if all through you are making choices based on your love for your family, even when those choices lead in different directions because of different situations. Those are the sorts of decisions that God praises.

So glad to hear that your Grandpa came through both those trials so well. That's great news. Be happy and enjoy every extra moment you have with him because each one is a gift.

Be happy with yourself. Lots of people would be more concerned about themselves than their family. You're a good person.

Thanks again, you guys.

Sigh. I did a little splurge shopping on some books to relax today.

Ugh now I feel bad again because I remember I applied at a hospital too. I hope this doesn't screw up potential job offerings in the future.

Sarky, from experience (and also from good theory/people practice):

1) Honesty is the best policy. You don't need to volunteer this information in an interview or job application - but If you ever get asked, be honest about why you made such decisions and what you considered.

2) Openness and communication. Be proactive and honestly tell the hospital why you are deciding to decline. They should understand.

3) If any future employees do NOT appreciate and understand your reasoning, then they don't deserve you as an employee. Well-being should come first.

Good advice. Agreed.

Thanks, everyone.

Ugh now my dad's got the virus again.

Sorry to hear that, Sarky. Hope he's doing better.

Well here's the screwed up thing. He got tested again somewhere else and the results were negative, which means the nursing home messed up the previous test and could very well have made similar mistakes.

And now my Grandpa's in the hospital AGAIN because he needs a pacemaker, while I'm worried about my brother going to work at Trader Joe's in Union Square because he might get caught in the crossfire with the police if there's another protest near the store.

Does anyone think we could use this space to talk about all the messed up stuff coming to light about the comic industry right now?

My two cents: Better to talk about it in Gym'lls, if at all. Tread very carefully.

Sounds like a good plan to me. I do think it's important to discuss the state of the industry - and I admit to not knowing much as I haven't been following the news. And I agree, tread very carefully re HOW opinions are expressed.