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I never had any real contact with him, however, from reading the last few pages it's clear that there will be a lot of people who will grieve him.

My condolences to all who miss him - both real and virtual.


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I never knew Paul, but it seems he was very close to many of you. Please accept my condolences.

Just to let you all know that it was Paul's funeral on Monday.

His family went, as did he friends, people from the UK based Legion APA he was a member of and lots of his workmates - I think about 50 of them turned up.

It wasn't a religious service, as Paul didn't have any religious beliefs. Instead his cousin, some of his friends, his boss and his partner gave readings.

Lord of the Rings was his favourite book so I chose this passage to read:


"As they came to the gates Cirdan the Shipwright came forth to greet them. Very tall he was and his beard was long, and he was grey and old, save that his eyes were as keen as stars, and he looked at them and bowed, and said "All is now ready."

Then Cirdan led them to the Havens, and there was a white ship lying, and upon the quay beside a great white horse stood a figure all in white awaiting them. As he turned and came towards them Frodo saw that Gandalf now wore openly on his hand the Third Ring. Then those who were to go were glad, for they knew Gandalf would take ship with them.

But Sam was now sorrowful at heart, and it seemed to him that if the parting would be bitter, more grievous still would be the long road home alone. But even as they stood there and all was being made ready to depart, up rode Merry and Pippin in great haste. "It will be better three together than to ride back one alone" said Gandalf, "Well here at last, dear friends, on the shore of the Sea comes the end of our fellowship in Middle-Earth. Go in peace. I will not say; do not weep; for not all tears are bad.”

Then Frodo kissed Merry and Pippin, and last of all Sam, and went aboard; and the sails were drawn up, and the wind blew, and slowly the ship slipped away down the long grey firth; and the light of the glass that Frodo bore glimmered and was lost. And the ship went out into the High Sea and passed into the West, until at last on a night of rain Frodo smelled a sweet fragrance on the air and heard the sound of singing that came over the water. And then it seemed to him that as in a dream, the grey rain-curtain turned all to silver glass and was rolled back, and he beheld white shores and beyond them a far green country under a swift sunrise. "


I just thought I'd share it with you as everyone on here's been really supportive and seem to think a lot of Paul, which has been a big comfort to me. I've also passed on your good wishes to his family.

Very nice. Thank you for taking the time to follow up with us here.

Thanks CK. That was a very moving and beautiful passage you selected to read.

Thanks so much for letting us know. Acceptance is hard, sometimes. I wish I had gotten to know him better.

I've been thinking about him so much these past couple of weeks. I wish I had kept in closer contact with him than I had been, and not played the whole "I'll shoot him an email tomorrow" game that is so easy to do. If I've learned anything from this, it's to not take for granted that you will get the chance to do tomorrow what you should be doing today.

thanks for sharing that reading with us, Andrew !

and i hope everything went as well as could be expected ....

Matthew.

Thanks Andrew.

That was such a lovely passage you read.

Thank you for sharing, Andrew.

Thanks. It was very moving.

Thank you for sharing Andrew, that was a beautiful and fitting passage.

One last thing - it's too late to send flowers or anything like that now but if anyone wants to make a donation it should go to the intensive care unit at Chelsea and Westminster hospital.

Not sure how you go about it if you don't live in the UK but I know that's what his colleagues did.

Now that I'm back, I just wanted to express my sorrow over Paul's death. I remember his contributions to our little club very well. Though he wasn't among those I was closest to, we definitely had some memorable and sympathetic interaction together.

My thoughts are with his family and friends, and I hope things are jumping over there in the Gray Havens...

This will now be an archive in memory of Paul. I'll keep it open in case anyone wishes to add their voice to it.

Thanks Gary . Paul will always be missed .

Oh my God...I have no words...

Just because you dont know someone doesnt mean that you can't empathise with them and send them and their family (both real and virtual) good thoughts.

I send the best of thoughts to LTKL's family and friends

Paul's birthday was a couple of days ago.



Happy birthday, Paul. I'll never forget your friendship. I miss you.

You know, I would have really loved to play City of Heroes with Paul. I think he would have enjoyed it. Funny the little things you think of.

If I knew Looks That Kill Lad better I would be filled with more remorse then now.I do wist Paul's family and friends my best regards as LTKL will be missed.....even by a stranger

I stumbled upon this thread a few months ago and did not want to speak up because I thought a stranger's pathetic remorse wouldn't be accepted. But I get really attached to words. I looked over Paul's posts and I've read his profile at the LMBP Outpost. I can get a general feeling as to what kind of person he was. Without knowing him I already miss him.

"May your soul be in heavenly peace."