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I have recently separated from my wife of almost 14 years. Reconciliation at this point does not seem to be an option.

I won't be around much here, if at all, for the foreseeable future.

I would appreciate your prayers.

Goodbye for now. I wish you all the very best life has to offer. Take care and may God bless you.

Lance

Lance,

I'm really sorry to hear that. You will definitely be in my thoughts and prayers.

Take all the time you need to sort things out - but I hope you'll be able to find some solace here, too, among good friends.

IB

Wow. Take care of yourself, and we'll always be here for you if you need us.

I'm so sorry to hear this, Lance. You will be missed. But it's time to focus on yourself now.

Sorry to hear about your situation, brother.

Take care of yourself, and I hope to see you back after things settle down for you. All my best.

I'm very sorry to here that. Hang in there.

Lance, really sorry to hear about this. Take some time for yourself and know you have a support system here if you need it, or even a safe haven for escapism.

You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

We'll sure miss you around here! Thank you for breathing some new life into Spaceopoly.

I hope it's not long before we see you in these here parts.

I am so sorry to hear about your troubles. Hopefully you will be able to sort through everything and get back on track.

Already I am eagerly awaiting your return.

Take care of yourself, lance. I always enjoy your posts. Hope to see you here again, when you're ready.

Thank you all very much. I wish you were all here right now to give me a big hug. I could use a few of those now.

Thank you so much.

You're more than welcome bud.

Hey everything happens for a reason...... as much as things looks sh*tty right now, it WILL get better, ok??
Hang in there. We, your friends, will always be here for you.

BIG HUG!

Sending positive vibrations for a good outcome for all involved ...

Lance, thanks for letting us know you might not be on LW much for the time being. Sometimes people stop posting and sentients worry and you know how it gets around here...I'll accuse Cobie of monster misspelled garlic breath that's scaring people away, not to mention Pantsless Pov, and general pandemonium ensues.

And since you know how it goes around here, I don't need to tell you that if you need a couple of minutes of comics-based shenanigans, you know the place. LW: where the Povs will always be pantsless!

Lance, bud, so sorry to hear this. Don't know the circumstances, but I hope you both handle it the best you can. good luck.

Hate to hear about your troubles... prayers said, and wishes for your return made.

Prayers for strength now and health and happiness ahead. We'll be waitin' for you....

You guys (and gals! sorry!) have been great. Thank you.

Thanks for the hug, FK! I'll take 'em from anyone right now.

Teeds, one of the reasons I posted my troubles was so I wouldn't just disappear. I wanted everyone to know that I am ok. Well, physically, anyway.

The separation with my wife has been fairly amicable, so it isn't as bad as it could be. Not even close.

I have an odd request, and I hope this isn't out-of-bounds. (Mods, feel free to nuke this post if it is.)

My request is - can I call you? I have typically been a very solitary person. In fact, that is one of the reasons for my separation. I do have some friends that I have been leaning on heavily, but I don't have many. Are there any people out there who wouldn't mind if I called them just to chat a bit. We could talk about comics or baseball or girly stuff if you are female or anything really. Or I might just bawl. I have been separated from the wife for a week, and sometimes the loneliness is unbearable. If this is something you will allow, then send me a PM of your number, what name I should call you, and what are the optimum times to call. It is probably a good idea if you are 18+, by the way.

I don't want to trouble anyone, but I realized what a great support network this could be. Well, ok, Cobie put it in his post, and it got me thinking.

Thanks again everyone.

Sorry to hear that. We'll all miss you.

[Pinning this thread for a short while so folks don't miss it.]

Take care of yourself Lance. Come back as soon as you feel ready.

Sorry to hear about this lance.
We'll be here waiting for your return when you feel up to it.

First of all, a big sloppy thank you to everyone for being so supportive. I didn’t mean for my earlier posts to sound so alarmist – I think I will still be on here occasionally, but not near as much as I used to be. I actually thought I was going to have to move in with my dad, who has no internet access. So far, that is not the case. I can only get on the internet when I go to the library, and then I am usually hunting for a job or an apartment.

Another thanks to those who said I could call them. I would likely only call when I am feeling terribly lonely, and I didn’t call anyone yet because – yesterday was the best day I have had since the separation.

It went like this: I went to church yesterday morning, and the church was having its Thanksgiving dinner. More food than I could handle! It is probably the only Thanksgiving meal I will get this year, so I was pretty happy about it.

I had planned to go and see the kids later in the day, but I called my wife around 3pm and asked if I could come over earlier. She said it was fine and even asked if I wanted to do laundry while I was there! (Which I did!) My youngest son (Patrick) was visiting his grandparents, but PJ (10) and Mariah (7) were there, and they paid so much attention to me! They showed me their Christmas lists and played games with me and we talked about dinosaurs and fought with me and it was all wonderful!

Before I left, I was printing off a portion of a short story I was writing, and my daughter asked if she could read it. I told her there wasn’t much of it yet and that I would let her read it when it was finished. This gave me the idea – I am going to write the story for my daughter and give it to her for Christmas. She will get the other, more normal, types of presents as well, of course, but I thought she might like this.

Thanks again to everyone for listening, and for your support.

I'm glad to hear you had a wonderful day with your family, lance! Your kids are so adorable.

Some days are ok. Some days are rotten. And some days, I just can’t stand it. Yesterday was one of those days. I was feeling so bad yesterday I actually did call a Legion Worlder. Exnihil was kind enough to let me call him. He was kind enough to spend 20 minutes or so out of his day (ok, it was on his drive home) just to talk to me. He was sympathetic, non-judgmental, and a good listener.

And it helped. A big thank you to Ex for letting me bend your ear. There’ll be a little something extra for you in your next paycheck, fella.

I also called my wife last night. I didn’t really have anything to say, but we chatted. There were no angry words, no acrimony, we just….talked. And it felt good.

Maybe reconciliation isn’t out of the question after all, I don’t know. The one thing I have learned is I cannot get through this with my sanity intact (such as it is) if I don’t lean on some people.

Thanks again to Exnihil, and to everyone who has been so supportive.

I don't know what else to say other than we're rooting for you.