Legion World Forums LEGION OUTPOST Mission Monitor Board The Moaning, Groaning, I just want to Vent thread

Oh Jude I'm so sorry.

We'll be sending good vibes your way.

Thank you I, God, I love all of you so much and, please know, when you see this thing I helped on in May know I did it for all of you.

Aw, Sarky. That's terrible.



Thinking of you all. Your brother and mom are lucky to have you.

more hugs, Sarky. we are thinking of you, your mom and your brother

Hey Sarky, like Ibbs and Cleome you're in our thoughts here, through these tough times. Take care.

Hey guys. Thank you for the kind words and thoughts but it turns out she has less time than we thought. I'm in the hospital with her right now and they told us yesterday she's now experiencing renal failure. I don't even think she's conscious right now.

I’m very sorry, Sarky… have they said how long?

Sorry, Sarky

We don't know. I didn't even think she would make it through last night.

I'm just so tired, and all I'm worried about what to do with the house, if we can sell it or about the mortgage. I have a GoFundMe going I set up to help mom but she didn't give me any access to the accounts for the house so I don't know what to do.

I'm just so sorry to hear your news Sarky. Words don't really say how tough and heart breaking a time this is.

As to the house/ accounts, locate your mother's documents. If they're not organised, it's not a disaster. You are just looking for ones relating to the property and bank accounts. Contact your bank/ mortgage lender/ lawyer to make them aware of the situation. These guys are the professionals, and are there to support you. They'll let you know what documentaiton is required regarding gaining access to financial information/ status of the property so that you know where to start if things come to that.

They deal with such enquiries regularly, so don't feel that there's massive barriers in your way about dealing with them.

My mother has now passed away.

So sorry Sarky. My condolences and prayers.

Our thoughts are with you at such a difficult time Sarky.

I'm very very sorry, Sarky.

Take some time, make sure you and your brother are taking care of yourselves. I know you're thinking of all the admin stuff, but you don't need to get to it right now. Let yourself process too, so you do not get overwhelmed.

My condolences, Sarky. I'm always here for you, and so are all your other friends at Legion World.

Condolences, Sarky. She has a good son that was with her at the end and that's a really good thing.

And I now have COVID

Oh no! Try to take it easy if you can. Do what you have to but many of the decisions can be put on hold until you are well again. Still praying.

I'm sorry you're going through this loss, Sarky, and illness too. I'm praying for strength and comfort for you. Remember to let yourself rest, physically and emotionally, as much as you can. You are loved.

Oh it just gets better and better, guys.

I was just checking in to ask how you were, Sarky, and saw the above.

It's not a rare thing for relatives to uncover any number of things being kept secret for reasons that are now lost. But that doesn't lessen the impact and the additional emotional turmoil on those relatives. That's a really horrible one Sarky.

Words on a forum don't really work when it's things like this. Just remember that you've friends supporting you. Do what's needed regarding your mom. Take the rest in stages, and give yourself time to breathe. It can seem overwhelming, but there will be solutions down the path.

I can only repeat what everyone has already said, Sarky. It's a lot, so please also take care of yourself and try to give yourself time. Rely on the experts and others who can help make it less confusing and overwhelming. And give yourself time and space to grieve.

I love her. I really do. She's my mom and I miss her.

But if she was here and, knowing what I do now, I'd

I'm sorry, Jude.

Thanks, you guys. I just hate the fact that I barely had half a week to process her death when I learned this, and I'm praying for a miracle.