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True friendships.

If for no other reason that this option is a plural.

(Orders a Nyquil toddy and curls up in a corner booth.)

I love the Lonely Hearts Club because of the "come as you are" dress code. Sweats and slippers are actually considered sexy here.

Do any of our threads have a dress code? You'd figure with all the shirtless (and pantsless in some cases) guys and scantily clad ladies running around that it's pretty much a big "come as you are" party!

Or at least a "come as you wish you were" party!

That may be so, Lou. But you probably should wear some pants at the Lonely Hearts Club. Think of the children - the poor little children!!!

Children? Bah! Feed them to the lions!

Children, move slowly from CK now. Unless he makes a sudden move, then you might want to run. And go to bed, it's way past your bedtimes.

I'd pick the friendship option. It's more natural I think.

True friendships, definitely. True love may exist, but I think it's largely an invention of romantic novels and Hollywood. Besides, that mental, emotionally-hyped craziness of falling in love passes and you better hope you manage to be true friends in the end.

On the other hand, I'd like to believe that true love - and love at first sight - happens for some people, and endures, and that it's from these cases that the novels and movies emerged.

If you're behaving certain ways because you believe "men are ruled by their penises", then you really are setting yourself up for failure.

For one thing, you shouldn't make such broad generalizations about the behavior or motivations of guys. There a lot of different types of guys out there. Personally, I find few things less attractive than a woman who comes on too strong, whether she's willing to follow through with it or not.

Furthermore, being a tease or flirt will usually only get you in trouble. If you create expectations in guys that you have no intention of fulfilling, then you're only going to irritate them. And if you're the sort that flirts with everyone (which you appear to be, at least online), that's going to foster jealousies and resentments among the people you flirt with.

Know who you are and what you want, and be straightforward about it. If you have confidence in yourself, that'll hold the attention of worthwhile guys far longer than any amount of superficial flirting.

Or at least, that's what I think, for what it's worth.

I never did like taking medicine.

You might want to consider that your children outnumber you by a considerable amount these days.

Remember what Cronus's kids did to him?

Well, it's only fitting. Consider what Kronos did to Ouranos.

It's been a while since I've *dated* I guy. (I won't mention other things I might have done.) I'm overdue, but I really hate the bar scene, and social organizations in my area are just non-existant. Plus, I'm fairly picky. I could have had this one guy, and I think I had fallen for him to some degree, but he wasn't much in the thinking department. It would have driven me nuts, especially since I do things like correct grammar on notes my bosses put up at work. I'm sure I'd be too much to put up with for a guy who doesn't know that grammar in the first place.

As a fellow picky Patsy, ferroboy, I empathize with you that it's a shame our anal rententia isn't viewed by the general public as being "bootylicious."

Thanks, Somber Lass. I know there are guys out there who I don't have to correct. Someday I'll find one...

You *might* be bored by a guy you don't have to correct.

Maybe you ought to look for a guy who likes to *be* corrected.

Sort of a 'english tutor/dumb jock' kind of thing.

Then again, intelligence shouldn't be discounted. Though there're many kinds of intelligence...

intellectual, emotional, social, ethical, practical, and just because someone is "intelligent" in one or more areas doesn't make him/her intelligent in them all.

I'm smart as a whip that fails to snap.

Gee, I don't really care if he's smart. The threshold is that you like looking at the other person. Then you have to like being with each other. Usually that happens if you make each other feel important and interesting. It's work, but the payoff is great.

Mystery Lad - I've _had_ a guy I had to correct. He wasn't smart in a lot of ways. I think he would have ultimately driven me nuts. (Like the guy with the OCD personality...)

Space Boy - I know, but he was lacking in enough areas. I just used grammar as an example, but there's really more to it than that.

Semi - A hot body is nice for a lot of things, but I need a little more than that for a relationship. I'd settle for a more intelligent guy with an average body.

ferroboy, I didn't mean that a hot body is essential, only that you have to find the other person attractive, whatever that may be. We all have different tastes. I've tried many times to stick with someone who was great in all respects, except that I wasn't really attracted to him. It just doesn't work. That's why it is a threshold requirement for me. But by threshold requirement, I don't mean that's sufficient - just that it's the starting point. There are many people I find attractive that I couldn't stand to be with.

I'm still smart as a whip that fails to snap!

I'm going to have to ponder that a bit, Space Boy. Sometimes I'm slow.

Well I'm colorful if not always cogent.

Colorful? Why you're a veritable rainbow!